Why Do They Build Walls & Break Them?
What’s the point of boundaries when we want to break them?
I often wonder why some people build walls to keep away someone they love. They do it may be because they lack the surety that their love is true or maybe because they get afraid that by keeping someone near to them; they lose themselves. Whatever the reason, I just always wonder about them. They set boundaries and build walls to keep a person away from them, but then after some time they want to see that person and want to connect, so what they do is break walls. And then they feel happy when they see that the other person is still behind the wall, ready to connect with them. So they talk a lot and share everything with that person because they trust them. But then they think they need to build walls, so they push the other person away, build walls, and feel that they are powerful. They have themself to be with them. Sometimes the other person breaks the walls to check out with them, but they freak out, get angry and build the wall again. And then when they see the other person is not breaking the wall, when they miss the other person, they stand up and break the wall and connect with that person again. This process of building and breaking walls keeps going. The cycle continues. Both people keep getting hurt when they see walls and feel happy when they break them.
But why, why don’t they end their suffering? Why don’t they permanently build or permanently break walls? Why do they look back when they push the other person? Why do they pause the connection again and again if they cannot live without the other person?
I often wonder about it…
